So today….

So today started off a normal day. I told him we were getting ready for his shower and that became a meltdown. Now I am pretty use to it by now and I normally just try to give him what he wants. But today I realized he’s about to be 15.

He was upset because he wanted a certain pair of shorts, the shorts he took off are the ones he wishes to put back on. I had enough. I realized that me giving in all the time created this. Yes, I understand he’s can be attached to things but this time I couldn’t do it. I feel like with everything I say okay and buy a lot of the same thing or try to wash the one thing he always wants to wear.

Today I said, “No, You have a lot of shorts please go find another pair.” That did not go well, he cried.. a lot. My oldest daughter after 5 mins ran in his room to try to help him find what he wanted but he didn’t want any of 8 pair of shorts that he had. He wanted the blue ones. He soon cried and folded his arms. That’s when I realized, this wasn’t a meltdown, he’s having a tantrum. (Que mommy is now looking at him crazy) I am like are you serious right now, he looked at me and cried some more. It ended with my daughter finding black shorts that didn’t have string on the outside.

For us I think I shouldn’t have let this part drag out for so long. I need him to understand that you may not get what you want all the time. I cannot keep buying 5/7 pair of the same thing so you don’t flip out. Just like before, he would wear jeans, then it went to sweatpants, then joggers and now we are on to other pants. Which is fine in some regards because he is expressing himself and he is 15 but to me sometimes he takes things to far. I did not think that this late in the game he would throw tantrums, but here we are. This parenting thing, doesn’t seem to be getting easier. I guess we should just hold on and enjoy the ride.