boys….

So how come no one told me how hard it is to get boys to do what you need them to do? I swear my girls just get it done. These boys are so different. My 11 year old is the reason I have gray hair I am totally convinced. He just wants to do his own thing, I just cannot wait for maturity to smack him in the face! I’ve talked to other mom’s of boys around that age and yeah, it seems to be the growing trend.

And my dear DJ is working on showering himself. And it’s hard. I find myself just doing it for him because he takes so long and does nothing. I told him what to do and left I came back and he was sitting thing under the shower chillin. I was like, “ DJ you done?” His response, “Yes!” Dude the front of you is still dry…. how are you done? And I end up staying in the bathroom watching him and directing him to do it. Brushing his teeth is also a thing he rather me do then him. I just don’t know how to break him of these habits.

My friend (old roommate) told me not to spoil him, I thought no I am treating him like everyone else. But now I realize that maybe I should’ve done somethings differently with him. DJ is way capable of brushing and washing, but he is so use to mommy doing it and would rather half do it so I can just do it for him. I find my self just saying DJ you have to do it and walking away or watching, but it’s not that great when he does it sooo I find myself in a dilemma as to what to do. I know not to put pressure on him, but I kinda do not want to be in my 60’s still washing and brushing this kid teeth either. Another special needs mom told me her son just one day decided that he didn’t want her to do it and from that moment on he did everything by himself. She told me to be patient… that was about 4 years ago, I am still waiting, full of hope that one day he will.